can happen anywhere, anytime to anyone. It's not just a school
or teenage problem. You can be bullied at home, in your neighborhood,
in the mall, at work, on the net and lots of other places.
Even adults get bullied (I recently had a nasty experience
with this, it was not very pleasant). So it's real important
to learn how to combat bullying, especially before you learn
to drive... before it can become "road rage". There are really
a lot of 'scary' people out there.
are being bullied, is there anything you can do to stop it?
Is it something you just have to put up with or is there some
way to put an end to the abuse? These are good questions.
are steps you can take to stop the bullying. Remember, they
don't always work, all bullies are different and many are
don't let yourself become a victim. Sure, that's real easy
to say, but there are some ways to accomplish this. Fighting
back against a bully will only escalate the situation, most
of the time that is exactly what they want you to do. Arguing
with them is usually frustrating, impossible or dangerous
-- especially if the person is impaired on alcohol or on drugs.
Sometimes just ignoring them just doesn't work either. If
you cant just ignore them, the person, you may have
to think fast and reply in a non-threatening or insulting
manor. This takes the fun out of the taunting for the bully.
There is nothing they can reply with if they think their name-calling
isn't getting to you in any way, unless they are very creative
and come up with a fast comeback. DON'T try this on someone
who you don't know at all, they could be capable of anything.
bullying is physical, try to avoid any situation where you
will be alone with that person. Also, don't act like you're
scared, even if you are. Stand up straight and tall and look
the bully in the eye if you are confronted. If it is a group
of people, DON'T do this, run like the wind or yell,
some situations are more serious, and will require intervention
by other people. In a serious situation, you need to tell
someone else about it. Go to an older person you can trust,
your parent or a friend's parent, the school principal, a
counselor, the school nurse, or a sports coach. Keep telling
people until you find someone who will deal with the situation.
It may be hard to believe, but the bully needs help just as
much as you do to keep the bullying from becoming a lifelong
realize that you don't deserve to be bullied. No one does.
Don't live with it thinking that it's something you're doing
wrong. You are a great person, so put an end to the bullying
now. I learned how to stop it, but it was not so easy and
it took a lot of time. Let's see who the "bully person' really
is, here is kind of a bully "profile", it will help you understand
what's going on with them.
Bullies come in all ages, sizes, genders, races, and
Bullies use many tactics to threaten and harass people
including, but not limited to, words and physical violence.
People who behave in openly hostile behavior, who threaten
others to make themselves feel powerful, or who build themselves
up by tearing others down are bullies.
Women are more likely to bully with words while guys
most often resort to physical attacks. For this reason bullying
by females is often ignored or not taken as seriously as bullying
by men. The reality is that both types of bullying are very
Words can be just as harmful as physical violence and
can cause lasting psychological damage to victims. The old
adage, "Sticks and stones can break your bones but words will
never hurt you!" is simply not true.
Never try to handle a bully alone. Always go to a person
with authority over the bully such as; a teacher, a principal,
a school liaison officer or a parent.
No matter what a bully threatens to do, you must tell
somebody in a position of authority and your parents. Never
suffer in silence. No matter how popular a bully seems you
do not have to handle him/her alone. Responsible adults will
help you if you tell them what is happening. Studies have
shown that bullying stops when adults step in and telling
an adult rarely makes the situation worse.
Bullies often model what they see at home. Sometimes
a bully is really crying out for help. Bullies often act out
because they feel they have no control over their own lives;
they bully in an attempt to take control. Telling an adult
about a bully may end up helping BOTH of you.
Ignoring bullies does not make them stop. Only adult
intervention and awareness can end the harassment. Bullies
thrive on the reactions of their victims and ignoring them
can make them step up their efforts. However, if you tell
an adult and then start ignoring the bullying behavior the
bully will tend to back off. Only start ignoring the behavior
after you have made as many adults as possible aware of the
As children grow in to teens bullying behaviors often
escalate. Death threats, taunts urging suicide, group attacks,
and violence with weapons can occur. This sort if behavior
is criminal and should always be reported to the police as
well as to school officials and parents.
Don't hide, speak out and tell someone!